Scott's Update

Hi all - Scott is resting a lot, and his pain is under control. We are still using IV antibiotics, but fevers still occur, not as high as the temps in the hospital last week, we are just to expect these fevers, the Doc's are saying it is the cancer that is causing them since they cannot locate another source. Scott is on oxygen now, we were sent home with it from Fairview.

We have settled into a care routine, we have a visiting RN, her name is Heather, she has helped us out a lot with Scott's comfort, she is very experienced with pancreatic cancer patients, so we are thankful for her. Claire has been able to work flexible hours and from home; which is a BIG help for me, she is able to do all the shopping, help out with daily housework chores, and help with Scott's care.

I have been printing and reading your emails, cards and notes with Scott. Thank you also for flowers, balloons, and gifts that he has received in the last few weeks.

We expect a visit from Ben, Jen and William this weekend, perhaps even Toby and Lily will come along!!

We appreciate all your thoughts and prayers...

Scott had a good weekend. He rests more each day. We had several visitors on Saturday, including Little William and Mom and Dad, they spent the afternoon leaving about 8pm, Will was "perfect" the whole time. Will has now been held by all three Great Grandparents, so that is an extra bonus visit for them.

On Sunday Kyle came over to watch the Super Bowl with us, Claire made us a lot of snacks, and the game was even a good one...wrong team won, but it seems that has happened a lot this year.

Tomorrow we expect a visit from Heather, RN. and a few visitors.

It is cold here in WI, but we do have a lot of sunshine and that is nice to look at from the inside!!

Roxane

Things are much the same these last few days. Scott is having a lot of fluid retension, the prescribed drug just does not seem to get the fluid off, he says it is not painful though. We had a visit from Heather, RN on Tuesday, she continues to help me give Scott the best care.

Roxane

Those of you reading that do not know this yet, I am sorry to post that Scott has started the process of passing. We have all been by his side since Friday. Heather, Scott's RN has helped us to make Scott comfortable. He is resting, with little pain or suffering.

We appreciate your prayers and words of comfort at this time.

The Hedrington's

Scott is resting and comfortable. Heather was here this morning, she had the medication doses increased for comfort. Scott's heart and lungs are still strong even though the cancer has taken away so much.

We know we are in your thoughts and prayers, we appreciate all the support and kindnesses shown to us.

The Hedrington's

Scott passed away Monday evening with his family by his side. Arrangements are with
Bakken-Young funeral home here in River Falls.
http://www.bakken-young.com/

Memorial Visitation
Wednesday, February 15th, 5-8:00pm

Memorial Service
Thursday, February 16th, 11:00am (lunch following service)

Thank you for all your support, love, and prayers.

The Hedrington's

Good Morning Everyone - Heather, RN stopped over this weekend and picked up Scott's remaining medical supplies. The supplies will be going to a Central/South American country in March with a volunteer team of medical people that work with children's clinics, we are very happy that she arranged this for us, Scott would be very pleased.

Thank you for all your kind words, hugs, and memories you shared with all of us over these past weeks. Scott loved life and touched so many...

The Hedrington's

These are some of the organizations and healthcare facilities that we are making donations to with the Memorial Funds that were given to us at the service and continue to receive in the mail.

We plan to make donations directly to those that provided Scott’s care.
Fairview-University Medical Center, Hudson Hospital, Heartland Home Care.

These listed below have great web sites.

University of Minnesota Cancer Center
http://www.cancer.umn.edu/page/aboutus/funding/funding2.html#TRIBUTE

Virginia Piper Cancer Center-Abbott Northwestern Hospital
http://www.abbottnorthwestern.com/ahs/VPCI.nsf/page/philanthropy

PanCan – An organization that directly benefits pancreatic cancer research and patients.
http://www.pancan.org/Donate/index.html

Thanks to all of you, we can provide financial support in Scott’s name to benefit research and the families of others with cancer.

The Hedrington’s

Dear Friends and Family -

We are doing as well as can be expected with Scott's loss...day to day. Many of you have offered your thoughts and prayers in notes, cards, emails, phone calls and visits as ways to help us with dealing and coping with Scott’s death. We all thank you for those kind gestures.

What Ben plans to do is reverse the order the postings for other's out on the web searching for information on pancreatic cancer treatment so they may come across his father's story from the beginning.

Please keep in touch with us; you have all helped us in so many ways. Our email addresses will remain the same.

A poem was sent to me, which has a lot of meaning for all of us. We would like to make this poem our last entry in Scott's blog.

The Hedrington's


Listen, gentle people, and hear my truest needs....
I hear you stumbling for words. Relax.
There are no words .....I hear you
remembering a funny story about my
loved one and looking embarrassed
because you are laughing. Share with
me. Let me laugh. It gives me
something to hold on to in the middle of
the night when I feel only pain ....Be
your happy self... and let me be me. On
days when I can laugh, I will. On days
when I can speak of my loved one, I need
you to share my memories....You don't
have to give me answers, for I will learn
to live without them. You don't have to
pretend my loved one never existed,
thinking I will forget if you do. Let me
speak his name, and you speak it, too.
He is always there, that one I love so
deeply, always a part of who I am. If
you take that from me, I will be less than
who I am.

Jacqueline L. Rogers

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